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Friday, 13 February 2009

  • FACEBOOK: Continuing Stupid Social Networking Streotype.

    I understand why people are all over blogging networking communities. The idea of writing all day at first seems rather unappealing, but then you could pour anything unto it.... and sometimes... if you're lucky... you got a few comments.. (something that i evidently do not possess in this blog. Better luck next time.)

     
    But social networking websites?
    No. A horrible idea. At least that's what i've thought.
    But these following people are saying otherwise.
     
    But seriously, I just don't get what people are ranting about.

    Social networks are NOT rad.

    Recently (by that i mean its not older than 100 years) there's this new website called Facebook, originally launched to only offered its services to Harvard students--ONLY. Oh, how I wish it actually would stay that way. Forever.
     
    But suddenly out of nowhere - this site overwhelmed the internet world and a lot of people are following this band wagon trend and worships it like they have nothing better to do.

     
    No. I'm not againt facebook--in case you were wondering-- But i'm against, social networking websites in general. But contrary to my statement i'm actually a certified Friendster user.
     
    I was actually quite contented with Friendster and i actually couldn't be happier than that. Yes, friendster is stupid and all but i'm too lazy to move my ass out of this site and make a new account on facebook. Besides most of my friend that i want to keep in touch with are already in friendster. But damn you facebook! most of my friends are slowly moving their asses to your site!
     
    All right i know. I hear the commotion that you dont wanna know the details of my life anymore... so i guess i'm gonna shut up about this now.
     
    But, seriously...you guys should've pay a bit of respect to Friendster. Friendster is actually the pioneer of the social networking concept. Later though, Myspace saw a potential in this and they continously promoting their own website and finally convince most of the west side of the world to use this site whereas Friendster still primarily dominated by Asian users. After Myspace, a loooott of social networking services are booming... starting from a lowly and despicable hi5 to... ofcourse facebook. Most of these services are a perfect example of what epic failure is.
     
    But.... again, for some reason...facebook beats all the odd. This facebook epidemic started to strike 99.4% of the general population and was proven to be the top social networking websiter in 2008-2009. What a horror.
     
    In many perspectives facebook isn't any better than friendster and myspace.... once again proving that popularity is a matter of bandwagon effect instead of a quality offered or content.
     
    Anyhow... i think i've been complaining too much about all of this.. but i forgot the most crucial elements of this post-- to discuss the main topic of why social networking sucks. So here it goes:

     
    WHY FACEBOOK, FRIENDSTER, MYSPACE, OR ANY OTHER SOCIAL NETWORKING WEBSITES SUCKS:
     
    1. They promote narcissm
    I got a friend who literally takes a shot of herself 1000 times a day and would've posted all of THAT pictures in friendster--- like anybody would like to see that in the first place. Some of the pictures that she posted were actually quite good but let's face it... most of them are usually crappy.
     
    Dont get me start with "ABOUT ME" section in their profiles. Most of the descriptions that the users posted are usually unrealistic, exaggerated, and even one-sided. what the user's friends posted in the comment section though- is actually the very thing you should trust on.
     
    2. They promote low quality form of pornography, emo-ness, and child abuse
    How does this happen? Well, go figure it yourself.
     
    3. They subconsciously promote a sense of dependency... (yes like alcohol or drugs--technically speaking) 
    Ever heard something like..."ooohh... i can't live without accessing [insert a stupid Social Networking websites] everyday."
     
    Yes, we all do. Hearing that line makes me wish to kill that person who utters that in her sleep.

     
    So, there you go.... 3 main reasons why i hate Social networking websites. What do you think of these following websites personally?

Friday, 30 January 2009

  • Reading between the lines

    I wondered if i would gain a lot of pounds lately... but apparently i don't.  =(
     
    (yes that was a sad emoticon in case you need a confirmation, although i'm sure you probably didn't)
     
    I currently weigh about 60 kilograms (about 132 pound) or so.. but geezz... i wonder how come a guy could weigh that much but look skinny at the same time. I mean i ate a LOT of foods... about half of my weight per day... not to say i'm body- conscious- or something, but i think there's something wrong with me.
     
    I spent 60 percent of my day lying down with my laptop while browsing the internet and eating a huge amount of foods at the same time for a whole week. It's intramurals in my school today. But i'm too lazy to go there anyway since i could always watch sports on TV anytime and i'm such a sloth. So i figure i could fatten myself but golly i don't. hahaha More reason to brag myself over my mom whose literally dying to be slimmer. (honestly, i'm comfortable with my mom's current looks. i don't mean to brag but she's a real beauty. the idea of her getting thinner doesn't sound too good to me) hahahaha....
     
     
    Anyway that's not the point of the story. In fact, That's just a real boring intro that decievingly makes you believe that this story would be something about me struggling about my weight and self confidence but then -like most girls' post that i read in their blogs- i  tried to disguise that self-image issues saying that i am actually not body-conscious or something but just wanna say those things for information (like anybody cares) and shift to another topic to convince readers that i am perfectly comfortable with my body (although in fact i didn't) and instead mocking somebody nearby (in that case-i use my mom as an example) about their weight and how utterly ridicilous their waist line and tummy looks but saying that so innocently that nobody would notice that i was insulting that particular person- although i 100%  am. (it's called an insulting complementer) 
     
    Again-in case you were misleaded - the intro was a fabricated story... it's not a story about me it's just an illustration of how those girls are writing their blogs. thinking that nobody could read between the lines.... but chances are... somebody will always understand what it REALLY means...
     
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    Hey! Hey!! Were you even listening to me? that story above is NOT  me... but whatever just believe whatever you want to believe.
     
    E-hem... anyway... like i was saying.  The intro above is a common illustration of a girl who does not feel comfortable with herself and need somebody to listen to her issues. But, there is a dilemma here. She also did not feel comfortable to talk about this to other people. So... the only way of letting this out is through writing all of this to her blogs...
     
    Problem is... she's not totally honest with herself (but we all could tolerate that... study shows people lied 3 to 4 time a day) so she consciously or unconsciously tried to type in all her worries but disguise it as if it's another ordinary weblog entries...
     
    I guess its their ways of feeling a little better by spoiling their worries and telling their problems without feeling ashamed at the same time. But sometimes... yes.. sometimes... we all needed to read between the lines sometimes. 
     
    This is the photo of my friend: (initialy i wouldn't want to bring this things up... but... for some reason... i think this story could be a powerful form of moral lesson)
     
     
     
     
     
     
                                            EDIT: (sorry, i remove to photo to respect my dear friend)
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
    She was one of my best friend since highschool. She's kin'da fond of reading my blog in myspace and used to comment on each of my entries consistently. In return, i used to read her blog consistently as well.
     
    Her posts are full of funny jokes... mostly making fun of herself and her weights. I used to thought that she was a very optimistic girl with a lot of friends.... until that one fateful night....
     
    She decided to end her own life that night. She stated in her suicide note that she was actually feeling uncomfortable to herself and that she states that nobody really understands her. Now... it kin'da hurts to know that i CAN actually help her to feel good about herself... if only i could pay attention to her blog closely and decipher what she really means her every words that she typed....(rest in peace Angie... you'll be missed.)
     
    sometimes... yes... sometimes we all need to read between the lines...
     
    [EDIT: sorry for a lot of confusing plot and story line... i'm bad in writing and i believe i am one sloppy writer... anyway i hope this story still readable]
     
     
     

Monday, 15 December 2008

  • Do you know what it means?

    I dont.
     
    In fact, i don't know what to believe anymore....
    I guess some questions are not meant to be answered after all. for eternity.
     
    Some people put their own life for something they belief in... but have they really tried to question things out of their own comfort zones? Most important of all... does it worth it?
     
    I once heard an advertisement of how low-carb diet works like a charm. Others said that low-fat diet will do. Will somebody just tell me what's the best? because they keep changing everytime i heard them talking about diet.
     
    Lord of the flies that i read when i was still a child one time gave me a chilling nightmare, i wondered what happen if we take out all the rules and norms, set up a real experimental island with a group of children trapped with it, and see what happen. Will they go down to the level of savages and proved that men in nature is naturally evil? or will they prove the otherwise- that men are naturally good like what Anne Frank used to believes?
     
    I read a book of how small our earth is in comparison to the sun and other stars. Does it prove that we are just a another tiny speckle loss in the space? Does it make us less significant than the other "aliens"- if such being does exist? Why just the thought of it makes me deppressed?
     
    Grown-ups often told me that each of us are special and unique- in his/her own ways. What does that mean? Does it mean that we are no greater or less special than the other people around us? Does it just another way of saying that we are just "average". Suddenly i don't feel so special anymore.
     
    People often said that charms do fade and beauty is just a skin deep. But do they really mean it? Millions of lipsticks and make-up had been sold everyday. 1/8 of our salary had been spend on tools and ways of improving our looks. In a world where only beautiful people seemed to have all the prestige doesn't it mean that that saying is just a proof of human hypocrisy?
     
    I read a blog that says that people often pictured New York in a wrong way. It's overrated--she said. People look at it as a symbol of fortune, of fame, of life-- Define what's life. Does what you had right now is worthy to be called as life?
     
    We live in a planet earth. I can't count how many blogs states that -at some point in one of their articles- they feel kin'da lonely. Yes, we all once feel lonely. All six billion of us. Why do we feel that way when we live in a such crowded world?
     
    People make war, people kill, and most importantly people hate each other. I once heard my teacher said that people either love or hate things. Does it mean it is entirely impossible--for the whole world that is-- to just love each other and make a world-wide peace?         
     
    I hate to grow up. When i was small, it was easy to belief that whatever i belief in will surely come true, but now that i've grown up it wasn't easy to belief in such things. Does it a bad thing to grow up? Or does it childish to belief in such things?
     
    In the end i just can't answer all these questions.
    Can you?
     

Monday, 17 November 2008

  • The problem with religion is..... Everybody seems obligated to defend their own religion

    As a non-adventist trapped in an adventist school, i used to hear a lot of question on why i'm not converted to adventist during my study here.

    Usually, when somebody asked me that question i brushed it off quickly with a joke, but if he/she still persistent to know my answer i would fired back another question: why would you still be a Christian? (Yes a Christian in general, not an adventist)

    If his/her answer is: (Try to find your own hypothetical answer here and see what my reaction is)

    (a) Because i follow my parent's faith- i would ask him again if that's his only reason why he adopted that faith, if he affirms it than he fell into my trap; I would laughed at this guy because i'm a horrible person, and his suffering through embarrassment warms me up inside. Wait, no, i laughed because he's a moron.

    Well to me, he doesn't have a ground on their belief. It simply tells me that he would accept anything that he's been fed up to. Here's a simple advice: grow up. You're not a kid who would belief everything that people said-- Children, they practically believe everything. And nothing could beat the feeling of pitty when you see a child who evetually finds out the truth and their sense of reality is completely shuttered. You know a child has grown up when you see one starts questioning things.

    (b) I don't know- i would shot him in the face for wasting my time. (Of course that's only in my mind)

    (c) Because Christian is the most logical religion i've known. look at Hinduism, does the idea of a blue color skinned God with multiple hands make any sense to you? What about muslim? Does the idea of killing people in hope of getting into heaven accompanied with 72 virgins seemed logical to you? -Oh no, don't use this argument (besides its practically sound childish y' know. It's like saying MY god is better than YOUR god. I use to say it all the time... when i was in grade school. if you know what i mean). 

    Anyway, I would reply his argument with this: "Does the idea of telekinetically talking (praying) to Jesus who is also his own father makes a perfect sense to you?"

    In other words, you cannot justify your religion as being the most logical of all. After all all religions are practically illogicalALL OF THEM. Yes, that includes Christian. Faith is an illogical thing to defend or even to die for. See my point? I'm not saying that having faith is a bad thing. But in a world where everything that is acceptable has to go in accordance to logic, this argument is practically useless.

    (d) Because i read the bible and i found the doctrines mention there to be true. I would pause our conversation for a while. Perhaps i would say this answer is far more superior with the other three and i would not argue again with you.

    But then again i have to find out if you're genuine with your answer or not. If you do you're still not done yet with my test. =) well, i have to know if you're open-minded. For example, i would ask if you ever read Koran or other religion's sacred books? Or your opinion in a classic moral issue case such as euthanasia. The latter test is the most important, because it reflected your openess to ideas and exposure to several dilemas. If you passed this, It means that you are well acquinted with other religion's idea and that your conscience tell you that Christian really is the right thing for you.

    The point is religion and moral are subjective. One can't say that their religion is far more superior than the other. That's why evangelism is a very hard thing to do. People who are deeply convinced that their religion is the right one for them are the most hard-headed people to convert. That point thus also justifies why i'm reaaaaaaaaaaally hard to convert.

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    I think i made a pretty bad post right now =( .... hahaha... at least i'm back from my xanga break.... how are you guys?

     

                   

     

                   

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